Quite often, I’m asked by visitors of our websites if I think women are “better” than men. Female Superiority is something that interests and intrigues many who are into femdom, or women in control.
I Don’t Think Women are “Superior”
And you know what? I don’t think women are “better”. This may surprise you to hear, since I am heavily involved in the world of men under the erotic control of women. But “better” or “worse” are qualities that are far too simple to be applied to the complexity of an entire gender. There are an infinite number of criteria on which an assessment of ‘better’ or ‘worse’ can be made when it comes to gender, sure. For instance:
- Who’s better at sports? Men or women?
- Who’s better at figure skating – men or women?
- Who’s better at communication – men or women?
- Who’s better at negotiating business transactions – men or women?
- Who’s better at giving oral sex to men? To women?
It’s sexy and fun to think women are superior to men in general. But to subscribe to this philosophy, one must discount the dozens of glaring examples one sees each day of women who certainly to whom the adjective “superior” is inarguably inapplicable. I’ll refrain from listing them here – I’ll let you do that below, if you so desire (smile)
Women are Better than Men at Erotic Domination
However, I do think that women are better than men at erotic control of the opposite sex. In my experience with dominant men, I’ve found that they are still “men” at heart, and at the end of it all they want to fuck (or get a blowjob). This desire involves an inherent weakness – the submissive woman can control the dominant male with this knowledge, if she chooses. Not so for dominant woman. While we do love sex, personally I think most women are better at postponing their desire for sexual fulfillment than men are. And thus they are less susceptible than men are to submissive manipulation. They can stay in control, longer and more thoroughly, than dominant men.
So what do you think? Are women “superior” in general? Are they superior when it comes to being dominant over the opposite sex?
Discuss!
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Women are just such superior dominants … when i meet a Mistress, i melt into a puddle at Her feet … thank You Ms Ally for helping me understand this,
Ms Violet’s suzanne
No individual is superior by virtue of their gender. I have a number of acquaintances that would never take tea with me after that statement.
In our push to legislate sexual equality, we preclude our differences. While I agree that all should have equality regardless of gender, let us remember this is a civilized concept. These ‘man-made’ precepts often serve to further divide us. Are we are so educated / indoctrinated that we forget, or deny, our animal differences? Are men simply driven to sow seed? Do women choose with whom they mate? The answers are obvious.
On penis envy, he said, “Bet you wish you had one of these.” to which she replied, “With one of these, I can get as many of those as I want!”.
Also, factual is defined by prevailing popular opinion. Earth is the center of the universe and only women can commit adultery; it is blasphemy to speak otherwise. It is a matter of dates and human nature predates all thinking.
All forms of prejudice will always exist. Admit it, we constantly judge everything that comes into our own personal world. It is the open mind that can resist ‘pre’ judging and decide ‘better’ or ‘worse’ based on specific merit.
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“Submissive manipulation” now that’s an interesting concept. I pretty much agree with your points Ms Ally, however, due to the superior training from your cadre of mistresses… I would say there are now quite a few men becoming adept at postponing their sexual gratification too! lol. And the systematic emasculation of men by the culture at large is now equaling (well not really, but kinda) the playing field as men are having to learn this “submissive manipulation” which you are talking about. Very interesting subject, thanks for the good read!
Goddess Josephine,
I agree with you. There are so many more men who are into cuckolding. It is probaly that there are men like me who would like to expand it into serving both a superior male and female.For various reasons I know I am not worthy to please a superior female. Small penis,small height and being a passive beta male. I also agree with you that women control the sexual arena.
Some men are just weaker than other men and are put on the earth to serve. They should serve all women and the superior males.
tbone thats an interesting observation. I get at least a 1/2 dozen or more calls about cuckolding and many share your superior male with superior female theory. It does seem like cuckolding has increased in it popularity. It seems there are many men feeling they are just not worthy to please a superior beautiful woman.
Women pretty much control the sexual arena regardless if they are dominant or submissive. The sex industry is proof of this.
I’m interested to learn how others feel about women being erotically superior.
I still remember the masculine voice…lol (inside joke.. she kiddingly did a male voice, not bad actually) then she sent me on my way to Milady Alexandria… something about teaching me a lesson….. But on your latest blog about superior women, I have this observation.
From talking to my patrons, and senior patrons on the bookmobile and the ones I pack for, those who enjoy suspense and thrillers be it espionage, medical or psycho etc… It comes down to the details.
The female authors come out on top. Lisa Scottoline – she used to be a lawyer – legal, strong female lawers, judge main characters, no window dressing. Tess Gerritsen, medical thrillers, Kathy Reichs, a former forensic anthropologist for the Smithsonian and the Toronto Forensics, the series Bones on Fox is roughly based on her exploits and characters she created.. Linda Howard, more suspensy, and action with hot steamy romance and sex, but not over the top. The list goes on.
My patrons enjoy reading these women and other because through thier years of experience and observation, a woman’s mind is more “wired” for details, and creating the connections of how the details go.
Another example, in the movie “First Monday in October” with Walter Matheau (?) there is a restuant scene where he and the new female supreme court justice go out to lunch. He asks what type of wallper is present she nails all the details in the description, while he basically states it is wall paper, it goes on the wall.
Like you mentioned it is not dominant per say, even though I am a male, and the thought of certain Milady’s Like Gemma and Alexandria, excite me about the whole dominance thing is erotically sensually exciting. It makes me think in new ways, and different ways, not dark and taboo, but wicked and mesmerizing. For when I have read erotica I enjoy the lady author, and I hardly read the male. I am not a “pent house letter” style fan. The female author brings you into it, wraps you up like Milady Gemma’s rope or asian silk, before you are aware you are ensnared, or bound by the senual images created by the words written down.
But maybe looking at it in a unique perspective of a sophisticated allagory of sensuality of erotic bondage, mental, emotional, physical and lastly the potential sexual release of the submissive.. for that that last one is not totally necessary. From my newbie understanding from talking with Milady Gemma and Milady Alexandria, the Mistress / Dommenatrix has already achieved her conquest, even though through the “game” the sub is already willing to yield or be brought to yield, through mental, emotional, physical and sometimes sexual or denial of sexual satisfaction, She the Mistress / Dominatrix has attained Her needs and release as well.
Hmmmm… long story short it is a Sybian, whoops wrong word, Symbiotic relationship, not superior, per se, but a mutual understanding, of respect.
Now excuse me For Milady Gemma has finished tying me up and I have to put this pencil and paper down, but why did Milady Gemma leave my bottom and front part bare of silk?
Milady Alexandria is sauntering in from the shadows with something in her hand…how come there is a leather smacking sound when she lightly slaps it against her hand? Smiling with a wicked chuckle, while Milady Gemma is purring in my ear on what and how she and Milady Alexandria are going to have fun with me… Now why are they both slowly licking their lips with the tips of their tongues?….My what teeth you have Milady’s long and pointed….. no …. no that is ok… I already gave blood yesterday, by choice… I am fine thank you…….uhhh help /….anyone?…now wait… wait a second there…. is this what you 2 meant by draining me dry???? damn…well I had that erotic mental image wrong….bummer…whooops do not say bumm out loud right now…right…got it.. no saying bummer… damn did it again…
………..SMACK..Oww… now that is not funny there Milady Gemma and Milady Alexandria…Smack… Smack… smack….. good thing I am hangng from this here hook for I do not think I will be able to sit down for a bit…. now why is my “winky” getting all hot and bothered…?????????????
If you want to pass this one along to the other ladies, I will be interested in their thoughts on my musings from your blog..
Happy Halloween,
Sincerly,
Aaron “bookman” Jacobsen
I had a live interview with Ms Violet and Ms Jane on this topic. http://www.sensualroleplay.com/live-interview-on-female-supremacy/
Personally and spiritually I support equality, however sexually and erotically female superiority excites me. I am a naturally dominant woman and enjoy control. Any chance I get to express this in its extreme is a real turn on for me.