So we’ve learned from the great feedback you all posted on the “My First Experience with LDW/Cock Control” thread that many of you visit our sites for quite a while before you actually make a phone sex call. Many times we hear, “I’d love to call, but I dont’ know what I would say”. If you’re more comfortable texting than talking, you can always use our texting site, Sexy Texting. But if you hope to one day work up the courage to make a call, I have some tips for you in the following article that I wrote a while ago, “What do I Say?” – Making Your First Phone Sex Call
In the comments of this post, I’d love it if some of our more experienced callers would share their advice for new callers to get over the fear of making the first phone sex call. We don’t bite! (unless you ask us to…)
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The thing that boosted my confidence in calling my first time is the LDW community itself. I listened to past talkshoe shows; especially Ms. Tia’s interviews and the Trifecta of Perfection with Cassidy, Laney and Sophia. Listening to those shows demonstrated how real and authentic the LDW women are. They proved they are well versed and intelligent; they take their role seriously.
To test the waters, I purchased some audios from the enchantrixaudios store. Little did I know I was the first customer at Ms. Ally’s new audio store. One of the audios was Empress Cassidy’s audio. I listened to it and loved it. I complimented Ms. Cassidy on the Enchantrix Empire site and we ended up exchanging e-mails. Afterwards, I felt comfortable to call Ms. Cassidy with my fantasy and I have not regretted anything since.
I don’t know if the experience is much different for callers as providers, but I can tell you I was *terrified* the first time I did a phone sex call as a provider. I was 22 years old, in college, and not that experienced at all. The woman who owned the small service I was working with was listening in on the phone. The caller knew it was my first time. It went well, but boy was I scared.
What’s interesting is, I was just as scared when I came back to phone sex after a 5 year hiatus after graduation, I was just as scared as I had been the first time! Even though I had over 5000 sessions under my belt, the first time the phone rang after my return I was shaking like a leaf LOL After that first session, though, it all came back and now it’s not scary at all. it’s fun 🙂 And I think if I’d had the chance to interact with callers before talking on the phone, like we have now, it would have been a lot less intimidating.
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I find it fascinating and endearing that on both sides of the equation, the anticipation of first-time phone sex has an awful lot in common with first-time sex-sex!
I remember being very nervous. I had sent acouple of e-mails to one or two of the Mistress’s, I even tried to chat with a few in IM and the chat room. My first call was a 10min call that I just happend to win in a contest that was going on in the chat room. That first call with Ms Catherine was really nice and felt comfortable. We just talk and kind of hit acouple of different topics. It was really nice.
I was no less nervous for my second call as I was for my first. But I think it was a different type of nerves. I had spent at least I would say a month trading e-mails with Ms Violet. When I did call her, I was nervous because now it was real. There was a voice to put to the e-mails I was reading. Which ment there was a person on the other end of the phone. But again, starting off a conversation by getting to know each other, and what each other likes or dilikes was for me at least, such a huge help.
That’s just acouple of things that make LDW and the Enchantrix Empire wonderful places.
You know, if you think about it, you probably are looking to satisfy a desire and need that is very strong and perhaps overwhelming. If you DONT call, you’ll possibly never get there, so its a simple choice. What do you say? Well how about your name, and then ask the Mistress how she is doing today and then tell her why you picked her to call. Its really not difficult. If she is not into your ‘thing’ she will suggest someone else. No one at LDW is judgmental in any way. They have heard it all and more (although not in my case LOL)….Go to it, you wont regret it. If you dont call, you will…
Gummy summed it up very well. I will throw out that I think it is completely worth reaching out to any of the mistresses through IM or in chat just to say hi I’m calling in.
I have yet to find one that hasn’t responded in a positive way.
That’s a great suggestion. Getting to know someone in Chat, through email or on enchantrixempire.com is an excellent way to break the ice in a non-intimidating environment
These are all great suggestions, guys. Thanks and keep em’ coming!
Making the first call for me was an intimidating experience. i am shy by nature, not much of a conversationalist, don’t have a way with women, and quite often stick my foot in my mouth. Even talking with new women this past week for the November promotion made me extremely nervous. Before speaking with Goddess Josephine for the first time it had been five years since i had called anyone. For me, i just take the plunge, after introducing myself i just ask a question related to one of my fetishes and let the talented, skillful women take it from there. What i lack (as enumerated above) they certainly don’t and they are very good at drawing out your desires and fantasies and developing a very gratifying interaction. LDW also makes it much easier with profiles, photos, blogs, sample audios, pre session questionnaires, etc. Take advantage of these offerings and you don’t feel like you are cold calling a stranger for the first time. Before i took the plunge the first time with Goddess Josephine, i read several of Her posts at http://www.SensualRolePlay.com and HumiliatedSissy.com, got myself self in a state of extreme horniness looking at Her photos and listening to Her audios. For me there is no greater regret than not going after something i really want because i was too afraid or nervous to try.
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She described a lifestyle activity that seemed to be written specifictly with me in mind!I read her profile, loved what I saw and read, and arranged a short phone call–no sense wasting a lot of hard-earned money talking to some fantasy girl who doesn’t REALLY exist-right!! We hit it off right away, I had a great time,and called back again five days later. The second call was ten times as enjoyable!!We’ve now arranged to have a lengthy call on a weekly basis, and some subsequent email communication has made it obvious that things are going to get better and better! I can honestly say that my life has taken a turn for the better, as a result of using this service, and finding someone as special as Ms Ann is hugely responsible for that.
So I say to anyone still sitting on the fence, yes, be careful, do some research, search out various sites, and since you are already in this one–take time to read the reviews and the Ladies profiles, and make an informed decision based on what you read. If you see someone who appeals to you try a small block of time that you know you can afford, and go for it!! You never know, you could be as pleasantly surprised as I was.
I am writing this to encourage anyone out the who is curious about what a call to LDW’s severice would be like, but are hesitant because they are unfamiliar with this type of service, or worried that she may not understand his needs and dismiss as a “deviant”, or something.
I’d like to relate a wonderful journey I’ve embarked with LDW’s lovely Mistress Ann. About the end of October, I stumbled accrosss the cockcontrol site by accident, and when I realised what it was all about, I had to check it out.I saw that the whole concept was well thought out, read through the privacy section and a couple of other sites, and realised that this was a classy, well run business with a good code of ethics and a strong committment to customer service and satisfaction. After some more browsing, I came upon a series of essays written by various Mistresses, and saw one entitled “The Benefits of Orgasm Denial”, writtten by a lady name Mistress Ann.
I described some of my apprehension on being a first time caller in the “November 4th Essays” about first contacts w/ the ladies of LDW, culminating with my first call a few months ago with Ms Constance. I’ll be glad to reiterate here, however. Actually Wes’s post sums up many of the things I was going to say. I am not someone who would ever “cold call” a Mistress w/out at least interacting w/ her first, but LDW goes so much further than that w/ blogs, email, IM, and various Cock Radio and Talkshoe shows where you can interact with the Mistresses either 1 on 1 or among a group. On Talkshoe, you can even call in for free and speak to the hosts of that particular program. (For example, I have called into the “Menage a Trois” show twice, and have enjoyed speaking w/ Ms Laney, Ms Sophia, & Ms Cassidy so much they might have to start blocking me).
To the nervous first time caller, I would simply recommend a bit of due diligence. Try to narrow down a few different types of things that get you excited so you can relay that to the prospective Mistress beforehand. Perhaps if you’re not feeling particularly kinky for a first time you can get a GFE or a guided masturbation call. Personally, I did a roleplay so I wouldn’t feel more comfortable “playing a character in a story” versus trying to express what makes me tick in these areas.
This is a bit long winded and all over the place, but overall just don’t be afraid to introduce yourself in the different mediums, whether just to say hi or to followup with some kind of common interest you’ve found out about one of the Mistresses (doesn’t have to be sexual). Then you are off and running and more likely to feel comfortable opening up a bit of yourself.
LDW/Enchantrix does a great job of making things easy for the first time caller. The Mistress’s are receptive to email and IM messages to get to know them a little before you make that initial call. The pre-call questionaires found on the websites help lay out all ground work to make that first call go exactly the way you like. If you prefer to not talk with a dispatcher,you can use the click to call feature that connects you directly to the Mistress. Lastly, once you do connect with that Mistress that you’ve dreamed of talking to, she will know how to put at ease right away, or not if you prefer, lol.
I can relate to the “nervous” first time caller. Even though I am now a veteran caller, and I only call one Lady, I still get nervous and excited before I call. Whenever I called a Lady for the first time, it really was the first time. My palms would sweat and I would stammer and have trouble doing the simplist of tasks such as breathing. I learned to “embrace” this nervousness and let it feed my anticipation. My advice is to just do it. Picking up the phone and calling the 800 number is the easy part. There is the intro message before you get to dispatch which is informative and soothing. The dispatchers are friendly and very nice and will quickly put you at ease with their non-judgemental professionalism. I always ask for the Lady by title, for example Empress Constance, or Mistress Constance. After a little credit card business I’m sent to the Lady I want to talk to and that’s when the magic really happens. Is it nerve wracking? It can be, but the end result is so worth it. Pick up the phone and call. With all the lovely ladies that LDW has to offer, it’s almost impossible to go wrong. If you want to know the Lady better before you call, you can always email her. I’ve gotten great and quick responses via email. You can also IM her, although I’ve never IM’d a lady cold, I understand a lot of them welcome it. If you want to learn more about her without any interaction then by all means check out her blog, and read her profile page. Take it from a person who calls on average once a week, placing that phone call is one of the best decisions I have ever made.