The Dominatrix Commitment

Recently the Mistresses have been discussing how best to create a positive Mistress-caller relationship. Lots of things came up. For me, the question boils down to: As a phone sex Mistress, what do I owe to my BDSM fetish callers?

Certainly, I owe all my callers the very best call I can give them. Lots of things go into creating that “very best” which go beyond my own knowledge, experience and expertise in many of the BDSM fetishes. This is a long post, but I did not want to split it up because it is an important topic, and I want you to know what my commitment is to each of my callers, and what that commitment means to them and to me.

First:

I owe you my undivided attention. What does that mean? It means I am not watching television, listening to music, writing, replying to IMs or emails, playing with my dogs, or anything else that might distract me. I don’t have other people in the house. My focus is totally on YOU, my caller. This is your time, time for which you are paying with your hard-earned money, and I am cognizant of that. If I have to answer the door to accept a delivery, I will deduct that time from your call, even though I will still be on the phone with you. You should not have to pay for even that brief lapse in focus. I do sip water or tea during sessions to keep my throat lubricated, so I will sound great for you.

Second:

I will listen to you. You have chosen to call me for a reason, and what you’re saying is important. I must hear and absorb it. Frequently, I make note of a few phrases or items to use later during the session. What does “listen” really mean, though? Sure, I hear the words. But, I also listen to the voice. Is your voice tentative? Nervous? Soft? Hesitant? Confident? Do you stutter while trying to answer my questions? Are you shy about telling me what you want?

Third:

I will put you at ease. I’ll start by asking how you are. If we’ve never spoken before, I’ll ask you to tell me about yourself. I’ll tell you a bit about myself. When we know a bit more about each other, then I’ll slowly ease into talking about your fetish. We’ll explore it at a pace that makes you comfortable. I wait until you begin to relax and trust my professionalism, and general chatting is frequently the best way to do this. I will also learn a lot more information along the way that will help me when we get into the meat of the call. I’ve had callers tell me they are calling for one particular fetish, but as we chat, I realize they have a secret that may not have a lot to do with that fetish at all. What all my callers want is to find someone who listens to them and demonstrates compassion and understanding. Then that secret just pops right out of their mouth, and we can get on with the session. Those few minutes of general chat were the difference between an OK or good call and a great call, and that’s why I like to do that when a caller is willing.

Fourth:

If I do not specialize in what you want, I will send you back to dispatch to find someone who is better suited for you. I don’t work with all kinds of fetishes, and it’s only fair that I send you back to someone who works with yours. If you feel you absolutely must talk to me anyway, then I will do the best I can in an area in which I do not specialize, but you will know ahead of time that this is what you will be getting.

Dallas

This blog post was written by Ms. Dallas during her time taking calls as a Mistress.  And while she no longer does calls, we feel it is important to share Ms. Dallas’ individual mission statement as a reflection of what our company offers.

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