Orgasm Denial Techniques: Making It Through the First Week...And Beyond

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Orgasm Denial Techniques

By Ms Heather of Cock Control: 800-356-6169

They say that it takes two weeks of doing something consistently on a regular basis in order to make it a habit. This is why so many diets, fitness routines, and programs to help you stop smoking fail... those first two weeks are a killer! This may not be news to you if you have recently embarked on an orgasm denial routine, or if you're considering trying one. So does that mean you are doomed to failure? That there is no hope at all for success? No, it's definitely something you can do, even though at times it may seem there is no light at the end of the tunnel. All it takes from you is a little perseverance, a lot of self control, and a few little tips and tricks that can help you make it over that 2-week hump.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 1: Be realistic.

Rome wasn't built in a day, and you're not going to find this is easy right off the starting block, either. Don't be surprised if you really find yourself struggling with your new lifestyle for a while. After all, the best way to make someone crave something is to tell them they can't have it. Even if you weren't constantly horny to begin with, as soon as you tell yourself you are holding back from orgasms, you will find that you suddenly become as horny as a teenager again. It's going to take some work, and a lot of mind over matter, but you can do it if you stick with it and have some determination.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 2: Give yourself achievable goals

Don't try to bite off more than you can chew right off the bat. Set a goal for your orgasm denial period that is realistic to your experience. If this is your first time, you probably don't want to jump right into the fire and decide to go 6 months without an orgasm. You will more than likely fail. Make small goals and gradually increase them as you get better at your techniques. This way it is easier for you to see a light at the end of the tunnel during the first go-around, and you can help yourself hang in there by looking at the glass half full ("I can hold out, I only have 2 more days before I can cum!", etc.).

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 3: Relax!

While you may feel very tense while starting an orgasm denial program, the worst thing you can do is feed into that tension. Try to relax and let your mind drift off to somewhere neutral, relaxing, and very non-sexual! Picturing a warm, sandy beach is probably not a good idea, since your horny mind will probably begin picturing bikini-clad bodies walking on that white sand.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 4: Breathe

If you find yourself getting really worked up, remember to take nice deep breaths, breathing in steadily and completely, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Concentrate on your breathing, much like self-meditation, and you will find yourself beginning to calm down and relax, getting things back under control. Good breathing techniques during sex can also help sustain your pleasure and make your orgasm that much more enjoyable, just for future reference.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 5: Squeeze & Release

When you feel yourself getting really worked up and straying toward the breaking point, try doing some exercises with your anal muscles to help ease the tension. Squeeze your anal muscles from the inside (as if stopping a bowel movement) and then release. Do this numerous times, both quickly and slowly, until you feel yourself begin to relax. Women do this with their vaginal muscles (called 'kegels') and it also improves pleasure during sex, another future reference for when your orgasm denial tenure is on hiatus.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 6: Rub the hot spot

You know that little soft spot between your balls and your anus? While it feels incredibly good if it's being licked or tickled, it can also help you regain control if you rub it, nice and hard, when you're aroused. Now no cheating while rubbing this area... you should be *really* rubbing it firmly, not smoothing your fingers over it and making things worse.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 7: Taffy pull

The balls are one of the most sensitive parts of the male body. I mean, just mention a man being kicked in them and every male in the room will wince and close his legs, quickly grabbing them as to protect them from harm. If you are needing to calm the cock down some, grasp your balls in your hand and give them a nice hard pull, enough that you can really feel it. You don't need to yank on them as if you are milking a cow, just firm pulls from the base of the testicles and down.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 8: Pinch it

The other most sensitive part of the male body would be that ultra sensitive cock head. When you are feeling really aroused, reach down and squeeze the head of the cock as hard as you can. Don't stroke the shaft or rub the head, pinch it... and pinch it hard. You don't need to do it hard enough to hurt, just enough to make it uncomfortable and break your train of horny thought. This will help you to focus on something else besides your cock.

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 9: Don't push it

If this is your first time practicing orgasm denial, you probably don't want to press your luck right away. Giving in to masturbation can make for big trouble, even if you intend on stopping before orgasm... sometimes it's best not to even tempt yourself. As you progress into longer periods of denial and learn to have more control over yourself, your orgasm and your cock, then you can practice advanced orgasm denial by having your cock teased to the edge of orgasm and then stopping, or even diving into our last tip...

Orgasm Denial Technique Tip 10: Ruin it!

So you just couldn't keep your hands off of that cock, and you ended up giving in to masturbation. Well, all is not lost just yet. One way to redeem yourself in this situation is to only allow yourself a ruined orgasm. When you just cross the line of orgasm and begin to see the first drops of ejaculate squirt out of your cock, stop stroking or stimulating it. This will cause you to no longer feel the pleasure of orgasm, but still lose your load, thereby creating a ruined orgasm. These can be extremely frustrating... and if you have cheated by breaking your orgasm denial schedule then you deserve to be frustrated, don't you agree?

I'm still having trouble, is there anything else I can do? If the Orgasm Denial Techniques just don't seem to be doing it for you, there is another option. Locking that cock up and keeping it out of your reach is a good way to go if you just can't keep your hands off of it. There are a number of very good chastity devices available for preventing or deterring masturbation (and therefore orgasm), and with a little research and trial and error, you are sure to find one that is right for you.

Another option is to get a Mistress, and allow her to take control over that cock, making it her own. This means you are no longer allowed to stroke or play with it unless she gives you permission to do so, and you are definitely not allowed to cum without her permission. Having a Mistress can also make your orgasm denial time much more enjoyable, as the thought of giving that control over to someone else can often be extremely liberating.

Remember, orgasm denial is not necessarily a punishment, but can also be a tool for you to use in order to retain more control over your cock and thereby improving your sex life. You will also find that once you master the technique and practice it on a regular basis, you will see changes in your non-sexual daily aspects of life as well. Improved self-control and self-esteem are only two of the many benefits one can gain from practicing orgasm denial. The benefits your partner will enjoy in the bedroom are just icing on the cake.

Written by Mistress Heather 1-800-356-6169

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